When parents in Maryland divorce, a lot of resentment can develop surrounding the fallout of child custody and child support disputes. In some cases, this contempt can even lead the parent who has been ordered to pay spousal or child support to withhold payments.
It is important that parents refrain from this type of behavior, because this ultimately hurts the children rather than the ex-spouse at whom the revenge is directed.
In some cases, a parent may be hesitant to pay child support because he or she feels that an ex-spouse will not spend the money on the child. However, if support has been ordered, it is likely that this parent does need to money to raise the children comfortably. And withholding child support will not only potentially leave that parent without enough money to raise a child, but it may also make the child feel abandoned by the non-custodial parent.
In order to support one’s children and protect their best interests, it is wise for parents to follow child support orders that have been established in court or by a divorce decree. It is for the child’s own good not to involve feelings of revenge into the child support process.
However, when the paying parent truly feels that he or she is saddled with an unreasonable amount of support obligations, it may be possible to modify the child support order by working through the necessary legal channels.
Splitting one household into two is financially stressful for both parents, and it is important that parents work with the family law system in order to ensure that this stress has as minimal of an effect on children as possible.
Source: Huffington Post, “You May Be Divorced, But You’re Still a Family,” Virginia Gilbert, Aug. 3, 2012