The main reasons you should avoid talking badly about your ex

There is nothing quite like a divorce to bring out the worst in people. It’s an emotionally trying time, to say the least. That doesn’t end as soon as the divorce is finalized, either. Many raw emotions can remain and it can take years to get past them. It is best, though, to avoid talking badly about your ex and here are three reasons why.

The most important reason is because of your children. They should not be made to feel as though they have to choose sides. If you take a “dig” at your ex in front of your children, they are going to remember it, but not for the reasons you may think. They will remember that this is how you dealt with the situation. In some cases, this could turn into feelings of resentment. Your children do not need to hear yet again how your ex is never on time for anything or how your ex is incapable of fixing a good dinner. The old saying of “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all” certainly applies in front of your children.

Secondly, it really serves no point at all. You will only look mean and petty. Even if you choose to only make rotten comments about your ex to your friends and not in front of your children, your friends will get tired of it, too.

Finally, remember that you are better than those nasty little remarks. It’s easy to find fault in others, but you have faults, too. Surely you don’t want the same thing happening on the other side of the table. Even if your ex badmouths you at every turn, don’t fall to his or her level. Instead, keep your character intact and look for better ways to focus your energy.

If you are contemplating a divorce, it’s best to consult with a Maryland divorce attorney as soon as possible. This professional can provide options and advice on a variety of matters encountered during a divorce, such as child support, alimony and child custody.


Source:, “3 Reasons You Shouldn’t Take Digs at Your Ex” Marina Sbrochi, Jul. 31, 2013