For example, acknowledging that you’re lonely and miss having that partner to lean on – even if they weren’t the best partner you could have – is the first step towards addressing that emotional pain and ultimately resolving that stress.
Divorce Stress Tip #2: Get specific about
what you want – and then dive into
complex legal processes of divorce.
Divorce is complicated emotionally, but it may be even more complicated legally.
Dealing with courts and the paperwork associated with filing for divorce can be overwhelming, especially if the experience is new to you. (And truly, we hope it’s new to you; divorce is an intense process if you do just one in your lifetime, let alone several.)
Filing for divorce often requires hundreds, even thousands of pages of information. One check mark in one box on one page can change the way your family interacts for decades to come.
That is a lot of pressure for one person to deal with. And, if it was your ex’s job to take care of the paperwork, then your personal stress levels will be even higher.
So before you try to tackle the paperwork, take a step back and figure out exactly what it is you’re aiming for.
Do you want your ex to take credit for the marriage’s dissolution through an at-fault divorce?
That sort of monetary pressure adds an understandable extra pile of stress onto anyone undergoing a divorce.
As a Firm, we work incredibly hard to alleviate this stress wherever possible, including:
Starting with mediation wherever feasible to avoid expensive court trials, then transitioning smoothly into litigation without any sort of onboarding necessary if the opposing party becomes uncooperative;
Running certain routine procedures through specially trained legal specialists who will bill at a lower rate than the attorney themselves;
Encouraging clients to sort through their evidence as much as possible in advance, to avoid charging for excessive investigative work; and
Arranging for ongoing weekly or monthly payments to maintain a client’s trust – basically, a legal savings account – to avoid stressful billing conversations while stretching out the financial investment over a more manageable period of time.
Anyone considering a divorce should also consider the expense – and try to work with a Firm that accommodates this sort of financial investment.
Divorce Stress Tip #6: Understand how divorce affects everyone in your family.
Divorcecauses stress for many people – and not just for the two people who are splitting up. Children, for instance, will feel the effects of divorce very deeply. Though all children will feel the stress of the breakup, their age can often determine the ways they deal with that stress.